Tell me I wasn't wrong...

[dixiesmama02]

I have a very good friend I work with who comes over to ride alot. She mentioned wanting to buy a horse and keep it at my place. She agreed to pay so much for feed. She found one on line she wanted to go look at. Had my husband call and find out info. about it and set up appointment to go look at it. Five minutes after he called and set up the appointment she said she didn't have the money to buy it today, but would Friday. Since we already had set up the appointment and gave them our name we went. First mistake I know! Needless to say, she fell in love with the horse, I bought it Monday under the conditions if she didn't pay me Friday on payday I would keep the horse. She was to come out and feed it everyday/take care of it. I was going to charge her 10 bucks a week for feed. I wasn't looking to make anything off of her. Like I said she was a friend. The very day we got home, I told her she needed to spray out the trailer where the horse had pooped on the way home. (we drove almost 5 hours round trip for him). I reminded her every day for 3 days about the poop. On the evening of the 3rd day, my son cleaned up the trailer. Yeah, you know where this is headed. Today's Friday. No mention of the money from her all week where I work with her and her girlfriend. My husband and I both started texting and calling and told her she had til 6pm as we agreed on or no horse. Of course, she came over at 6pm. Picked up her saddle and stormed off mad! Started texting me and ranting and raving that she was going to pay me, but didn't because I wasn't acting like a friend! I told her upfront Friday at 6pm. Was I wrong to tell her I'm sorry, but I paid for him, you didn't pay me so he's not your horse? We are both professionals, she's 22 I'm 36. I've been down this road before and knew better, but trusted her. I'm trying to rationalize if I did something wrong, but don't think I did. Can I get some opinions? I mean I seriously told her numerous times on the way to pick up this horse....if you don't pay me Friday I'm keeping him. Even explained the situations of what has happened in the past to make me not want to even do it in the first place. I finally texted her back and told her if she wanted to gripe...used a different word...come back to my house and say it to my face... Haven't heard another word from her... So am I being a terrible person? I now have another horse, which I didn't need, but will probably keep because he is beautiful, but couldn't afford him right now. The only reason I had the money is because I had just sold 2 of mine. Thanks for letting me vent!

[loverofminis]

this sounds SO MUCH like when the time my aunt came to stay with us and agree to pay half rent, half electric bill ect. Only she left not paying us a dime for the gas it toke to get her butt down were we are! about 300 miles... we sold a chair which she left when she moved and got so ticked that we were awful people. But our electric bill was $400 which she ran up the time she was staying... we had to sell it cause we were on the verge of getting it turned off.

So yeah from past experience with user people you did the right thing... hope the horse will be good for ya, good luck!

[cinch]

With my recent episode of having to pick up my horse that the guy did not pay for, I'd say you did it right.
But since the horse was in your possession and you didn't want it anyway, maybe she could have made payments, which she probably would not have made. lol

[Mits]

You did nothing wrong,you handled it real good.She is still acting like a kid,which she is still a kid.I wish I was still a kid!

[belleoftheball]

Simple fact... No pay no horse. You were in the right 100%. She knows she was in the wrong and is not being a good friend to you. Sorry for the ordeal, but looks like you have a new horse. Enjoy until she pays.

[dixiesmama02]

I might have let her make payments if she would have said something to me about not having the money or made arrangements prior to Friday. They have no children and basically no bills. She only works weekends because she's in school again and is actually on break for the summer, but still only working weekends. I just worked 14 days straight with plans to buy my son a dirt bike. But, now he has no dirt bike but lol he loves the new horse. We have 5 children, now back up to 5 horses, and one dog. You can imagine the grocery and feed bills alone! She should have been more respectful and came to me and said there was a problem before Friday. I also think this horse is too good for her. She said she knew how to ride and used to ride all the time. She does fine if I let her ride a green broke horse, but when she's road our big money horses she doesn't know what she's doing and tries to plow rein them and just basically almost ruins them. This horse I bought for her is very well broke and broke to pull a wagon and she just didn't know what she was doing when she tried to ride him. We tried to give her pointers, but it just went in one ear and out the other. I knew he was going to rear up with her about 2 minutes before he did it and was trying to explain to her to get out of his mouth and how to ride him when he reared up, which he did. She was either going to get hurt or the horse would have. I think everybody is better off with her not getting him and the horse staying here. If she couldn't even settle up or agree to make payments, I know she would never hand over money for feed or anything else. Trader (Trademark's H) is happy here and I guess we have a new horse. Maybe I wasn't planning on keeping him, but knew he was going to be around anyway as he was going to live here so I guess the only thing that has changed is that he's our horse and not hers. He really is a sweetie! I'll try and figure out if I can put his picture on here so ya'll can see him.

[belleoftheball]

Well since your son loves the horse then make sure it is his....... Of course I don't know which one you would rather him have. I have 14 horses and 1 child a hubby and a nephew living with me. I know about those feed bills.

It drives me nuts when trying to explain to someone about staying out of there mouths. Mine (the veterans) do not need anything but a light touch. The young ones still plow/neck rein. They are still learning. So I do not let anyone on them that do not know how to handle a green broke horse. To much time and money in their training.

[dixiesmama02]

Trying to put a picture of him on here. Don't know if I know how or not...We will see....Trader.jpg
Have no clue if it worked till I go back to look at it. So if it's not there...I don't claim to be a computer genius! LOL I'm a nurse, I work with my hands and my brain, but on humans not machines....
He looks small in this picture, but he's actually over 15 hands and only 3 yrs old..

[dixiesmama02]

Very glad he didn't end up with the dirt bike!!! LOL He's dangerous enough with the way he likes to fly on the horses! Yeah, I think we've learned our lessons with letting friends come over and ride our horses. Think we will stick with trail riding with other horse owners. Thanks for everybody's opinions and not just cuz so far they all say I'm right...But that does make me feel better. Just dread working with her or her girlfriend the first time. Oh the picture ain't so great because I took it with my phone. Need to get the camera out and put some of everybody on here. Thanks again!

[Maxx'sMom]

He is a cutie, I can see why your son likes him.